Types of love between two different people

Types of Love Between two Different People

Executive summary

Love is the strong affection a person has towards the other person. Love can be between people of different gender, age, color, social status, religion, or nationality. True love knows no boundaries, and that is why there exist different types of love. Most of the different types of love are derived from ancient Greek. The purpose of the book is to show why different people will have a different kind of love and why each of the attachments is important to the parties involved. The love between two people can take various forms, and two parties cannot have all the ten types of love discussed. The ten examples of love discussed include love for parents, love for friends, agape love, love for animals, intimate love, selfish love, and unenduring love for friends, love for close friends, obsessive love towards people, and child love. Each of the love is unique in its way and is beneficial to both parties involved. The greatest of these types of love is agape love. An excellent example of agape love was portrayed in the life of Jesus in the Bible. He loved the human race unconditionally and gave all to save them from humanity. Also, child love and parent love are essential types of love because they enhance strong bonds between parents and their children. Animal love can be obsessive because it will make a person become to close to animals in caring for them. However, it’s an essential type of love because it creates a good relationship between human beings and animals. Animals tend to feel protected in the presence of human beings.  

Introduction

Love is defined as a strong affection towards a person or something. Love can include a sexual desire for a person you have a romantic relationship with. In most cases, love comes naturally, and it’s not something that a person will force to the other.  People express love to other people in different ways, including sending gifts through acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, or through the quality time you spend with a person. The love language that people have towards each other should be the same because if two people have different love languages, it may be the source of problems in that love relationship.  The issues that arise in love relationships come as a result of a misunderstanding between the two people involved. It calls for commitment, hard work, and understanding to make a long-lasting relationship (Morgan, 2020).  

Theoretical statement: The ancient Greek-derived some ten different types of love, including agape love, love for animals, love for parents, child love, enduring love, intimate love, obsessive love towards people, selfish love, love for a friend, and love for close friends. The book will focus on discussing the different types of love, and the essential kind of love and why it’s essential. 

Purpose statement

The purpose of the book is to define the different types of love. The book will focus on ten main types of love that are common in a relationship that people build amongst each other. Love is everywhere, and it’s something that comes naturally, and usually, every person will have one or more types of love. A person will have to fall in love at one point in life.  People build love relationships at home, school, and in the community, but they rarely understand the kind of relationship they have. Also, in most cases, people tend to confuse the different types of love, giving a wrong explanation, for example, to a kind of love that was not supposed to be. It will discuss why it’s essential for a person to have the specific type of love that he or she will have and how to improve on the existing love.  

Agape love

The first and most important type of love is agape or unconditional love. Agape love is one of its kind, and only a few persons will have this specific type of love. It calls for tender, unconditional love without expecting anything in return from the people you show love. It calls for a person to love compassionately and sacrifice for the sake of those he or she loves. Agape love can be defined as infinite passion and boundless empathy. It’s a kind of love that has a penchant for everyone and everything around (Smith, 2019). In the presence of agape love, it leaves people with a sense of happiness and peace.

A person with an agape type of love will be more concerned about touching the lives of people. He or she will interact with the lowly or despised people in society. Agape or selfless love knows no boundaries. People with agape kind of love will not expect a gift or returns for loving or doing well to someone. An excellent example of agape love is portrayed in the life of Jesus in the Bible. Jesus loved all people and interacted with them without limits. He did not mind their class, social status, or nationality. He should compassionate to the sick and went ahead to touch their lives.  In most instances, Jesus suffered for the happiness of others. Jesus died for the sins of all men to set them free. He did not expect any returns from human beings for the sacrifice he made for their lives. Therefore, agape love is one of the unique types of love that people can have. It’s a kind of love that calls for a selfless being to portray this kind of love to others.

Love for parents 

Love for parents is another particular type of love. It’s a kind of love depicted between parents and children. A parent might have a special kind of love with her son or daughter, depending on the special relationship they have. Parent-child love comes naturally, and a parent cannot be forced to love his or her daughter. They relate well and share mutual trust between each other (Burton, 2016). It brings a sense of closeness and affection, whereby a parent of the child will keep on checking the whereabouts of the other. It promotes a sense of wellbeing and belonging in a family. 

Love for a friend

 Friend love comes in the form of Philia love between two or more people. It’s that kind of love that a person gave strong feelings towards friends. Philia love is better than other types of love because it represents the love between people who consider themselves as equal. In philia love, no party is considered better or superior to the other because they view themselves as equal (Burton, 2016). This kind of love does not necessarily have sexual acts or sexual desires between the two people in love. It can be a love relationship between a male and a female or people of the same sex. Philia love builds strong friendship that is founded on goodness, and it’s not only associated with mutual benefits but also trust and dependability. Real friends will love to seek to live together and true to each other regardless of their differences. It’s through philia love that one will find a friend who is open and straight in his or her actions.

Philautia or self-love

Philautia love is the unique type of love a person has for himself or herself.  Self-love comes with high self-esteem or healthy respect towards self. In life, everyone is expected to have some level of self-love because one cannot love others if he or she cannot love self. Self-love or philautia is portrayed by the way we feel, act, or think about ourselves and other people (Kaladharan, 2017). When self-love is cultivated, it brings about self-confidence in us and others.  In terms of the relationship between two people, philautia love advocates loving the other person just as you love yourself. It’s expected that a person will show the same level of affection as he or she has to self. If a person does not love themselves, then it becomes difficult to love the other person. Philautia love makes a person to be open for growth and develop a fulfilling relationship with others. Self-love aims to beautify things and make good things out of it to self and others. 

Love for close friends also known as storge love

Storge is also referred to as familial love. It’s a kind of love that a person has close affectionate to other friends. It is more related to philia love. This kind of love is more common among parents and their children. It’s the parent-child love, the love that a parent has towards his or her child, and vice versa. There is a strong bond, familiarity, or kinship between people in this kind of love. Storge love creates strong ties even if people are far away from each other; there will be assured of love from their parents or children (Kim, 2004). When people are in a relationship, they will also expect storge love, the feeling of dependency on the other person. Therefore, storge love is an excellent example of the kind of love that parents should have towards their children. It creates a sense of belonging to children and their parents. 

Love for animals

Love for animals is another type of love that exists between people and animals. Mostly, its people who portray their love towards animals. For instance, a person might show love to pets. Love for animals comes through caring for animals at any cost. One will feel comfortable when they are around animals, and they will care and keep animals in better condition as human beings. Love for animals drives a person to frequently visit the animal orphanage, zoos, and animal dens to interact with animals. Only a few people can understand how to care for animals, and this comes as a result of interest and spending time with animals to learn their behaviors. 

An enduring love for friends 

Pragma love is also known as enduring love. It’s an excellent example of the kind of love that two people in love should have.  It endures happiness, sickness, and bad days that parties in a relationship will have. Pragma love does not require much effort from each other because both people are good at honoring their promises. People with pragma love can preserve and withstand each other’s weaknesses. Each party in that love will make efforts to see the other person happy (Kim, 2004). An excellent example of pragma or enduring love is depicted in old couples who have lived together from their teenage old to old age, and they still love each other. It shows that each person has endured and tolerated the other one despite the differences. Pragma love has matured with over a period. Pragma love between two people will need a lot of patient and hard work from both parties. However, this kind of love is rare to find, especially in the current society. 

Obsessive love towards a person or things

Mania love is commonly referred to as obsessive love. Mania’s love is universal between two people in love. However, it can be a destructive love because one partner is usually obsessive or too much attached to the other person. In most cases, one party in this kind of love will want to be respected and will force love as a way of reinforcing the self-respect they desire (Princess, 2010). Mania’s love can lead one partner to be jealous and over possessive about the other person. In case one partner fails to love the way the other person is loving, it can result in problems. However, two people under this kind of love can suffer from low self-confidence and low self-esteem. The reason is that a person will always be at the fear of losing their partner. In case one partner loses control, mania love can be destructive. 

Intimate love

Intimate love is love that is characterized by sexual desire towards another person. Intimate love is common among people in relationships, couples, and married persons. Intimate love is mostly for the opposite sex, male and female. When people have intimate love, they show sexual desire towards the other partner (Raffagnino & Puddu, 2018). They will act in a way they portray sexual desires and feelings. Under intimate love, each party will show mutual love towards each other. They tend to have mutual understanding and feelings (Kaladharan, 2017). The bond between people with intimate love is strong, and they usually solve their differences with respect and understanding.  People with intimate love are faithful and determined to make the other person happy. They always present gifts and presents for their love partner. They also appreciate each other because they have a mutual understanding. 

Love for a child (child love)

Apart from parent love, there is also a child love. Every parent will have some special kind of love for their children. A child loves due to paternal or maternal relationship. A parent will not love a child who is not his or hers the same way he will love his child. The child love comes through numerous sacrifice. For instance, a parent will sacrifice to ensure the child gets the best (Smith 2019). A parent will sacrifice to see the child get a good education, better healthcare, and a good future. If a child asks for anything, a parent will rush to provide to the child. There is a blood connection that makes a parent more responsible for her child more than other people. Child love makes parents be accountable and be determined to bring up a respected and morally upright child. 

Analysis

The love between two people can be different depending on the relationship the two people have. A person can love his or her child unconditionally in the complete sense of love. A person can love a friend or parent differently, depending on the relationship. People tend to show compassion and love for others. Understanding is the key to building all ten types of relationships mentioned above. When misunderstanding crops into a relationship because of the beginning of problems, which can end up breaking the love relationship that ever existed. Love languages must be the “centre” of each love relationship that aims to grow and move to greater heights. There is a need to give gifts, say a word of affirmation like ‘I love you,’ or act nicely to other people. Spending quality time with the loved one and extending a physical touch is also love languages that keep the love relationship moving and functional. Each type of love mentioned above needs to be nurtured and treated with dignity. If two people in a relationship fail to respect each other, there is a likelihood of failing in their relationship (Neto, & Wilks, 2017). Therefore, it’s essential to know and understand the kind of relationship that you have developed over time and understand ways to build and improve the relationship.  

Summary

In summary, different types of love can exist between two people. The book explained the ten significant types of love between two people. The ten different kinds of love can be with parents to children, animals, couples, friends, or even the community. The greatest love that everyone should have in or out of a relationship is love for parents and agape love for friends. Agape love is unconditional and knows no boundaries. An enduring love for friends, love for parents, love for animals, and self-love are also essential to love, but they cannot beat the love between parents and children. Love for animals is also necessary because it enables people to care for animals and rear them in a conducive environment. Parties with different types of love will expect to receive the same love they give. In a situation of love, both parties should have mutual feelings, and they should be committed to ensuring they provide the best. The love for animals comes naturally and enables people to take care of animals.  Therefore, love between two people can be portrayed in different manners depending on the level of friendship and mutual feelings they have towards each other. 

Need for Further Research

There is a need for further research into the various types of love. For this research, it only concentrated on ten types of love, yet there are more than ten. The need to conduct further research regarding the different types of love between two or more people. Importantly, the same research should be carried in a new context, culture, and location. For instance, it should research different types of love existing in different cultures and how they differ from other cultures. Lastly, there is a need to re-assess and expand on the theory, model, and framework used in this research. 

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